becoming the wife of a widower….from struggle to joy

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Facebook Surprise

Posted by: Author on: August 6, 2009

So I was on Facebook today and noticed Superman became a fan of the group “Leukemia & Lymphoma Society Team in Training”.
I don’t know how to feel about it.  The late wife died from complications with leukemia.  When she had been in remission, she trained to run a marathon to raise money for research.  This [...]

Making peace

Posted by: Author on: July 26, 2009

Before my husband’s late wife passed away, I had a good relationship with her sister.  Her sister was 15 years younger than her (she was adopted) and I taught her Sunday School.  She always came to hug me when she saw me at church and would laugh and joke with me.
When it came out that [...]

Reconnecting

Posted by: Author on: June 2, 2009

This past weekend Superman and I had some time to ourselves. It was much needed as we have been enduring a lot lately and it had been straining our marriage.
We went on a date and it was amazing how Superman started opening up and talking about his time in the Air Force. I had heard [...]

I dreamed she was still alive

Posted by: Author on: May 19, 2009

A few weeks ago, I had one of the most vivid dreams that Superman’s late wife was still alive.
In my dream, I was married to Superman and still pregnant.  It was like she had either been raised from the dead or had never passed.  She had her hair again.  She started talking to me and [...]

prayer does change things

Posted by: Author on: May 16, 2009

I’m making a more conscious effort to not only post when things are rough, but to also share the joys. After all, I did include struggle and joy when I named the blog!
Yesterday when I came home from work, Superman had actually been doing some things around the house. I can tell it’s a step [...]

the cost of marrying a widower

Posted by: Author on: May 15, 2009

In some of my research on being a wife of a widower, one topic that I don’t believe has gotten a lot of press is the financial impact of the tragedy they endured, especially if the late wife passed from a sickness.  While the economy seems to be on everyone’s mind lately, I think many [...]

Premarital Counseling

Posted by: Author on: August 9, 2008

Superman and I started premarital counseling two weeks ago.  If you are considering marriage at all, it is a MUST!  I think it’s also a must to have counseling from someone who has a successful marriage.  My pastor is probably the best premarital counselor in the region, and it has been unbelievable.  What has been amazing [...]

nesting

Posted by: Author on: May 28, 2008

Yesterday I had the opportunity to make my first contribution to Superman’s home (which will be my home someday).  It was exhilirating!  I had a blank canvass of a flower bed to let my creative energy flow into!
Two months ago we ordered some flowers (which still haven’t arrived!!! sometimes on-line shopping sucks!!!) and last week we surveyed [...]

who are we protecting?

Posted by: Author on: May 8, 2008

I wanted to get this off my chest.  I’m in a somewhat unique situation as my boyfriend’s late wife’s mother and 2 sisters attend our church.  This creates many opportunities for uncomfortable situations.
Several weeks ago, I thought Superman was acting rather strangely at a meeting we had at church.  It was almost like he was [...]

small victory

Posted by: Author on: May 7, 2008

I got together with Superman today.  We were just chatting and he said he thought we didn’t look like we should be a couple.  He seems to think that people wouldn’t look at us and put the two of us together, but would say, hmmm, strange to see those two together.
I asked him why, and [...]


To the WOW/GOW community:

I encourage you to leave a comment so others can benefit from your insight and questions. Many forums for wives and girlfriends of widowers/former widowers are not public. I am hoping that by being more public about what happens in our lives, others may be encouraged and some may become more understanding of what we experience. If you are concerned about your identity being discovered by people in your life, please use a screen name. (That's why I haven't disclosed by real name!) Thanks for listening and sharing. ~Author~

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