becoming the wife of a widower….from struggle to joy

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The second anniversary of late wife’s death

Posted by: Author on: October 17, 2009

 This past week was the second anniversary of her death.  I remembered how terrible it was for a few weeks last October before Superman and I got married.  He did really well this year.  He has had a few weeks with really poor sleep and nightmares, which could be him dealing with it on a [...]

the hard work of marriage

Posted by: Author on: August 18, 2009

To update you since my last post, he randomly asked me what was on my mind one day so I asked him why he’s a fan of the Lymphoma group on Facebook.  He said he saw that a friend became a fan so he did as well.  So it wasn’t as big of a deal [...]

Facebook Surprise

Posted by: Author on: August 6, 2009

So I was on Facebook today and noticed Superman became a fan of the group “Leukemia & Lymphoma Society Team in Training”.
I don’t know how to feel about it.  The late wife died from complications with leukemia.  When she had been in remission, she trained to run a marathon to raise money for research.  This [...]

I dreamed she was still alive

Posted by: Author on: May 19, 2009

A few weeks ago, I had one of the most vivid dreams that Superman’s late wife was still alive.
In my dream, I was married to Superman and still pregnant.  It was like she had either been raised from the dead or had never passed.  She had her hair again.  She started talking to me and [...]

prayer does change things

Posted by: Author on: May 16, 2009

I’m making a more conscious effort to not only post when things are rough, but to also share the joys. After all, I did include struggle and joy when I named the blog!
Yesterday when I came home from work, Superman had actually been doing some things around the house. I can tell it’s a step [...]

the cost of marrying a widower

Posted by: Author on: May 15, 2009

In some of my research on being a wife of a widower, one topic that I don’t believe has gotten a lot of press is the financial impact of the tragedy they endured, especially if the late wife passed from a sickness.  While the economy seems to be on everyone’s mind lately, I think many [...]

Another Loss

Posted by: Author on: May 12, 2009

Another reason I had not been posting much over the last few months is because I was pregnant. Yes, was.  At the end of  April I miscarried my first child at approximately 12 weeks.
The pregnancy had been rather difficult from the beginning.  Almost as soon as we realized I was pregnant, I began spotting.  So after [...]

doubt creeps in

Posted by: Author on: June 6, 2008

Needless to say, my relationship with Superman has entered into a bit of a rough patch.  I called him today and I was telling him about some work related issues that I was dealing with, and he was rather non-responsive, almost bored.
Which is something I’ve noticed lately.  Yes, we’ve been dealing alot with the “widower” [...]

am I to be mommy or aren’t I?

Posted by: Author on: June 2, 2008

I’m not quite sure how to start this post, I’m still in quite a bit of pain.  I feel the need to get this out.  It’s regarding Superman and his view of my relationship with Superboy.
It actually started a few days ago when we were at the home improvement store.  He was looking at paint [...]

nesting

Posted by: Author on: May 28, 2008

Yesterday I had the opportunity to make my first contribution to Superman’s home (which will be my home someday).  It was exhilirating!  I had a blank canvass of a flower bed to let my creative energy flow into!
Two months ago we ordered some flowers (which still haven’t arrived!!! sometimes on-line shopping sucks!!!) and last week we surveyed [...]


To the WOW/GOW community:

I encourage you to leave a comment so others can benefit from your insight and questions. Many forums for wives and girlfriends of widowers/former widowers are not public. I am hoping that by being more public about what happens in our lives, others may be encouraged and some may become more understanding of what we experience. If you are concerned about your identity being discovered by people in your life, please use a screen name. (That's why I haven't disclosed by real name!) Thanks for listening and sharing. ~Author~

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