becoming the wife of a widower….from struggle to joy

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The second anniversary of late wife’s death

Posted by: Author on: October 17, 2009

 This past week was the second anniversary of her death.  I remembered how terrible it was for a few weeks last October before Superman and I got married.  He did really well this year.  He has had a few weeks with really poor sleep and nightmares, which could be him dealing with it on a [...]

the hard work of marriage

Posted by: Author on: August 18, 2009

To update you since my last post, he randomly asked me what was on my mind one day so I asked him why he’s a fan of the Lymphoma group on Facebook.  He said he saw that a friend became a fan so he did as well.  So it wasn’t as big of a deal [...]

Facebook Surprise

Posted by: Author on: August 6, 2009

So I was on Facebook today and noticed Superman became a fan of the group “Leukemia & Lymphoma Society Team in Training”.
I don’t know how to feel about it.  The late wife died from complications with leukemia.  When she had been in remission, she trained to run a marathon to raise money for research.  This [...]

Making peace

Posted by: Author on: July 26, 2009

Before my husband’s late wife passed away, I had a good relationship with her sister.  Her sister was 15 years younger than her (she was adopted) and I taught her Sunday School.  She always came to hug me when she saw me at church and would laugh and joke with me.
When it came out that [...]

Reconnecting

Posted by: Author on: June 2, 2009

This past weekend Superman and I had some time to ourselves. It was much needed as we have been enduring a lot lately and it had been straining our marriage.
We went on a date and it was amazing how Superman started opening up and talking about his time in the Air Force. I had heard [...]

I dreamed she was still alive

Posted by: Author on: May 19, 2009

A few weeks ago, I had one of the most vivid dreams that Superman’s late wife was still alive.
In my dream, I was married to Superman and still pregnant.  It was like she had either been raised from the dead or had never passed.  She had her hair again.  She started talking to me and [...]

prayer does change things

Posted by: Author on: May 16, 2009

I’m making a more conscious effort to not only post when things are rough, but to also share the joys. After all, I did include struggle and joy when I named the blog!
Yesterday when I came home from work, Superman had actually been doing some things around the house. I can tell it’s a step [...]

the cost of marrying a widower

Posted by: Author on: May 15, 2009

In some of my research on being a wife of a widower, one topic that I don’t believe has gotten a lot of press is the financial impact of the tragedy they endured, especially if the late wife passed from a sickness.  While the economy seems to be on everyone’s mind lately, I think many [...]

7 weeks into marriage

Posted by: Author on: December 15, 2008

So we got married on October 24th! You haven’t heard from me because it’s been insanely busy as I adjust to becoming a wife, a mother, and my commute changed from being 25 min to 45 min-1 hour one way.
I must say that things are going pretty well. We are having our moments here and [...]

it’s been postponed

Posted by: Author on: September 7, 2008

So I told you all I was supposed to marry Superman 2 days ago.  It didn’t happen.
Approximately two weeks ago, after reflection in premarital counseling and based on the advice of our pastor, we postponed the wedding indefinitely.
I am telling you all for several reasons: 1) For you women out there that feel pressure to [...]


To the WOW/GOW community:

I encourage you to leave a comment so others can benefit from your insight and questions. Many forums for wives and girlfriends of widowers/former widowers are not public. I am hoping that by being more public about what happens in our lives, others may be encouraged and some may become more understanding of what we experience. If you are concerned about your identity being discovered by people in your life, please use a screen name. (That's why I haven't disclosed by real name!) Thanks for listening and sharing. ~Author~

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