becoming the wife of a widower….from struggle to joy

Posts Tagged ‘late wife’s family and friends

The second anniversary of late wife’s death

Posted by: Author on: October 17, 2009

 This past week was the second anniversary of her death.  I remembered how terrible it was for a few weeks last October before Superman and I got married.  He did really well this year.  He has had a few weeks with really poor sleep and nightmares, which could be him dealing with it on a [...]

Making peace

Posted by: Author on: July 26, 2009

Before my husband’s late wife passed away, I had a good relationship with her sister.  Her sister was 15 years younger than her (she was adopted) and I taught her Sunday School.  She always came to hug me when she saw me at church and would laugh and joke with me.
When it came out that [...]

prayer does change things

Posted by: Author on: May 16, 2009

I’m making a more conscious effort to not only post when things are rough, but to also share the joys. After all, I did include struggle and joy when I named the blog!
Yesterday when I came home from work, Superman had actually been doing some things around the house. I can tell it’s a step [...]

My first Mother’s Day

Posted by: Author on: May 11, 2009

Yes, it’s been a while since I’ve posted.  Life has been a whirlwind as I adjust to married life, being a mommy, and all that has come along with it.  Mother’s Day can be especially difficult for many who are with a widower or former widower, so I thought I’d squeeze in the time to [...]

7 weeks into marriage

Posted by: Author on: December 15, 2008

So we got married on October 24th! You haven’t heard from me because it’s been insanely busy as I adjust to becoming a wife, a mother, and my commute changed from being 25 min to 45 min-1 hour one way.
I must say that things are going pretty well. We are having our moments here and [...]

Three Weeks Away

Posted by: Author on: August 15, 2008

It’s amazing that it’s only 3 weeks until the wedding!  It seems unreal.
I’m continuing to move stuff into the house.  It’s really starting to feel like my home now that we are getting things unpacked.  I go around the house and get pleasantly surprised to see my familiar things in a new place.  I’ll be [...]

dealing with both sets of in-laws

Posted by: Author on: June 17, 2008

I’ve decided that being with a widower is sort of like having two sets of in-laws.  I know we aren’t married yet, but anyway . . . future in-laws.
So I ended up going to Superman’s house on the day the late wife’s family was coming to see Superboy.  I wasn’t quite sure how I felt [...]

our first social gathering

Posted by: Author on: June 13, 2008

So this past weekend, we had our first social gathering that we attended with the 3 of us.  It was a birthday party for a young boy in our church, and many of the people in attendance had known Superman’s late wife.  So while some people have seen us at church together, I think it’s [...]

thank God for fathers

Posted by: Author on: June 12, 2008

I have some good news today! (I’ll get to the topics promised in my last post in the next few days.)
Yesterday Superman met with our pastor, as he does on a regular basis.  I’ve known my pastor for 8 years, and he is a father to me as he is to Superman.  One of the [...]

am I to be mommy or aren’t I?

Posted by: Author on: June 2, 2008

I’m not quite sure how to start this post, I’m still in quite a bit of pain.  I feel the need to get this out.  It’s regarding Superman and his view of my relationship with Superboy.
It actually started a few days ago when we were at the home improvement store.  He was looking at paint [...]


To the WOW/GOW community:

I encourage you to leave a comment so others can benefit from your insight and questions. Many forums for wives and girlfriends of widowers/former widowers are not public. I am hoping that by being more public about what happens in our lives, others may be encouraged and some may become more understanding of what we experience. If you are concerned about your identity being discovered by people in your life, please use a screen name. (That's why I haven't disclosed by real name!) Thanks for listening and sharing. ~Author~

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