becoming the wife of a widower….from struggle to joy

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The second anniversary of late wife’s death

Posted by: Author on: October 17, 2009

 This past week was the second anniversary of her death.  I remembered how terrible it was for a few weeks last October before Superman and I got married.  He did really well this year.  He has had a few weeks with really poor sleep and nightmares, which could be him dealing with it on a [...]

the hard work of marriage

Posted by: Author on: August 18, 2009

To update you since my last post, he randomly asked me what was on my mind one day so I asked him why he’s a fan of the Lymphoma group on Facebook.  He said he saw that a friend became a fan so he did as well.  So it wasn’t as big of a deal [...]

Facebook Surprise

Posted by: Author on: August 6, 2009

So I was on Facebook today and noticed Superman became a fan of the group “Leukemia & Lymphoma Society Team in Training”.
I don’t know how to feel about it.  The late wife died from complications with leukemia.  When she had been in remission, she trained to run a marathon to raise money for research.  This [...]

Making peace

Posted by: Author on: July 26, 2009

Before my husband’s late wife passed away, I had a good relationship with her sister.  Her sister was 15 years younger than her (she was adopted) and I taught her Sunday School.  She always came to hug me when she saw me at church and would laugh and joke with me.
When it came out that [...]

I dreamed she was still alive

Posted by: Author on: May 19, 2009

A few weeks ago, I had one of the most vivid dreams that Superman’s late wife was still alive.
In my dream, I was married to Superman and still pregnant.  It was like she had either been raised from the dead or had never passed.  She had her hair again.  She started talking to me and [...]

the cost of marrying a widower

Posted by: Author on: May 15, 2009

In some of my research on being a wife of a widower, one topic that I don’t believe has gotten a lot of press is the financial impact of the tragedy they endured, especially if the late wife passed from a sickness.  While the economy seems to be on everyone’s mind lately, I think many [...]

My first Mother’s Day

Posted by: Author on: May 11, 2009

Yes, it’s been a while since I’ve posted.  Life has been a whirlwind as I adjust to married life, being a mommy, and all that has come along with it.  Mother’s Day can be especially difficult for many who are with a widower or former widower, so I thought I’d squeeze in the time to [...]

Christmas with the in-laws

Posted by: Author on: December 21, 2008

So I’ve so far survived the first Christmas with the in-laws.  We’ve been here 2 and a half days.  It’s interesting, to say the least.  When Superman’s brother arrived, he didn’t even say hi to me.  And Superboy latches on to Grandma like a lifeboat leaving the Titanic and acts like mommy and daddy are [...]

on days like today

Posted by: Author on: October 6, 2008

As I have so wonderfully observed, I usually only turn to this blog when I need to vent.  My lack of writing means that things have been going well, and, well……busy.  Here’s a summation:
Premarital counseling continued, great progress made! Superman and I took a day trip to the lake and had the greatest time.  Superboy [...]

I don’t want to hear her name

Posted by: Author on: September 8, 2008

For the last several months, Superman and I have been doing really well in regards to the whole “widower thing” (for lack of a better phrase).  I’d gotten past a lot of my insecurities, his grief was not apparent, and he even reported that he was getting his passion back.  He was feeling more productive, [...]


To the WOW/GOW community:

I encourage you to leave a comment so others can benefit from your insight and questions. Many forums for wives and girlfriends of widowers/former widowers are not public. I am hoping that by being more public about what happens in our lives, others may be encouraged and some may become more understanding of what we experience. If you are concerned about your identity being discovered by people in your life, please use a screen name. (That's why I haven't disclosed by real name!) Thanks for listening and sharing. ~Author~

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