becoming the wife of a widower….from struggle to joy

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The second anniversary of late wife’s death

Posted by: Author on: October 17, 2009

 This past week was the second anniversary of her death.  I remembered how terrible it was for a few weeks last October before Superman and I got married.  He did really well this year.  He has had a few weeks with really poor sleep and nightmares, which could be him dealing with it on a [...]

Making peace

Posted by: Author on: July 26, 2009

Before my husband’s late wife passed away, I had a good relationship with her sister.  Her sister was 15 years younger than her (she was adopted) and I taught her Sunday School.  She always came to hug me when she saw me at church and would laugh and joke with me.
When it came out that [...]

Another Loss

Posted by: Author on: May 12, 2009

Another reason I had not been posting much over the last few months is because I was pregnant. Yes, was.  At the end of  April I miscarried my first child at approximately 12 weeks.
The pregnancy had been rather difficult from the beginning.  Almost as soon as we realized I was pregnant, I began spotting.  So after [...]

on days like today

Posted by: Author on: October 6, 2008

As I have so wonderfully observed, I usually only turn to this blog when I need to vent.  My lack of writing means that things have been going well, and, well……busy.  Here’s a summation:
Premarital counseling continued, great progress made! Superman and I took a day trip to the lake and had the greatest time.  Superboy [...]

am I to be mommy or aren’t I?

Posted by: Author on: June 2, 2008

I’m not quite sure how to start this post, I’m still in quite a bit of pain.  I feel the need to get this out.  It’s regarding Superman and his view of my relationship with Superboy.
It actually started a few days ago when we were at the home improvement store.  He was looking at paint [...]

…and it had been going so well

Posted by: Author on: May 29, 2008

Today wasn’t a good day.  I’m glad it’s just about over.  I’ve been dealing with some family and work issues as of late, and a few minor things happened with Superman that ended blowing up into a phone conversation cut short.
Since I was already on edge today, things that I may not have noticed or [...]

mixed emotions

Posted by: Author on: May 19, 2008

This weekend was the weekend Superboy comes to town with his grandparents.  Every other week either Superman goes to see him or they come here.  It hurts him deeply that Superboy has to stay with them, but financially it isn’t possible for him to live here yet given the cost of daycare and how medical bills [...]

staying strong

Posted by: Author on: May 19, 2008

So to follow up to Mother’s Day……
He’s asking me to “prove” that I can deal with the issues of being with a widower, as I’ve had my moments he believes show that I’m not strong enough.  I just wish there was someone I could talk to in person that understood what I was going through…….I [...]

mother’s day is the new valentine’s day

Posted by: Author on: May 19, 2008

(This is my post from 5/11/08 – I had typed a lot and LOST all of it, and was away from my computer for much of the week)
As a single woman, I often disliked Valentine’s day.  I had been dreading Mother’s Day for a while, thinking about future holidays, envisioning being alone at home while [...]


To the WOW/GOW community:

I encourage you to leave a comment so others can benefit from your insight and questions. Many forums for wives and girlfriends of widowers/former widowers are not public. I am hoping that by being more public about what happens in our lives, others may be encouraged and some may become more understanding of what we experience. If you are concerned about your identity being discovered by people in your life, please use a screen name. (That's why I haven't disclosed by real name!) Thanks for listening and sharing. ~Author~

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