becoming the wife of a widower….from struggle to joy

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The second anniversary of late wife’s death

Posted by: Author on: October 17, 2009

 This past week was the second anniversary of her death.  I remembered how terrible it was for a few weeks last October before Superman and I got married.  He did really well this year.  He has had a few weeks with really poor sleep and nightmares, which could be him dealing with it on a [...]

it’s not a competition

Posted by: Author on: June 3, 2008

Superman and I did not talk much today.  I felt like taking some space after yesterday.
So today I’m reflecting on how I feel at times I’m in a competition with his late wife.  You’d think it’d be easy to win against a dead woman, but it isn’t.  Logically, when I consider the situation, I know [...]

am I to be mommy or aren’t I?

Posted by: Author on: June 2, 2008

I’m not quite sure how to start this post, I’m still in quite a bit of pain.  I feel the need to get this out.  It’s regarding Superman and his view of my relationship with Superboy.
It actually started a few days ago when we were at the home improvement store.  He was looking at paint [...]

…and it had been going so well

Posted by: Author on: May 29, 2008

Today wasn’t a good day.  I’m glad it’s just about over.  I’ve been dealing with some family and work issues as of late, and a few minor things happened with Superman that ended blowing up into a phone conversation cut short.
Since I was already on edge today, things that I may not have noticed or [...]

nesting

Posted by: Author on: May 28, 2008

Yesterday I had the opportunity to make my first contribution to Superman’s home (which will be my home someday).  It was exhilirating!  I had a blank canvass of a flower bed to let my creative energy flow into!
Two months ago we ordered some flowers (which still haven’t arrived!!! sometimes on-line shopping sucks!!!) and last week we surveyed [...]

“it doesn’t concern you”

Posted by: Author on: May 24, 2008

“It doesn’t concern you.”  That’s what I was told when I sensed Superman was having a rough day.  He’d been short with me, and at first I thought I did something to upset him.  When I asked what was bothering him, he didn’t want to talk about it.
I know it has something to do with [...]

mixed emotions

Posted by: Author on: May 19, 2008

This weekend was the weekend Superboy comes to town with his grandparents.  Every other week either Superman goes to see him or they come here.  It hurts him deeply that Superboy has to stay with them, but financially it isn’t possible for him to live here yet given the cost of daycare and how medical bills [...]


To the WOW/GOW community:

I encourage you to leave a comment so others can benefit from your insight and questions. Many forums for wives and girlfriends of widowers/former widowers are not public. I am hoping that by being more public about what happens in our lives, others may be encouraged and some may become more understanding of what we experience. If you are concerned about your identity being discovered by people in your life, please use a screen name. (That's why I haven't disclosed by real name!) Thanks for listening and sharing. ~Author~

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