“It doesn’t concern you.”  That’s what I was told when I sensed Superman was having a rough day.  He’d been short with me, and at first I thought I did something to upset him.  When I asked what was bothering him, he didn’t want to talk about it.

I know it has something to do with his late wife, possibly her family.  I hate it when I feel shut out, and that I feel powerless to make his day better.  He has all of me; but there are things he’ll never tell me.

Perhaps I should be thankful.  It could me keeping me from a lot of drama.  He has said that he has told me too much in the past, and he doesn’t want me to form wrong opinions when I don’t know the full history, and he doesn’t want me to feel attacked.  When he said that, I thought maybe someone was having a problem with him dating again.  I shouldn’t be speculating but sometimes I can’t help it.

Detaching is difficult.  He says that when he has times like this I don’t need to know the situation in order to help him; all I need is to be there, to embrace him, give him my love, and be present should he need to talk.  It’s something I’m going to need to learn to do, because I always want to know what’s happening in his life.

It’s good to remind myself that things do not always concern me.  It doesn’t make me any less in his life, and just because he may be sad/upset/withdrawn etc. at times does not mean he does not love me.  I’m going to keep reminding myself until I fully believe it, and days like this don’t trigger me.