One of the ideas I’ve been turning over in my mind is that so often early in a relationship the focus is on widower issues. It’s easy to be consumed with it. Now, nearly 4 years into the relationship (almost 3 years of marriage), I’ve realized that the focus on these issues may lead to one overlooking issues the relationship can bring or conditions that impact day to day life.
For example: I was so focused on being the “2nd wife” and becoming a mother I totally overlooked how Superman’s disability status would affect our day to day living. I’m much more affected by him waking up in pain than the fact he lost a wife.
He did not even remember that his wedding anniversary would have been this week if she had been alive.
So to end my musings…
If widower issues are consuming your thoughts, what might you be overlooking? Are you truly compatible? Does he treat you with love and respect? Do your visions align? Are you headed in the same direction?
Just some questions to ponder.